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Questions to Ask a San Diego Divorce & Family Law Attorney

15 essential questions for your free attorney consultation — Divorce & Family Law cases in California

How to Use This List: Bring these questions to your free consultation with a San Diego Divorce & Family Law attorney. Take notes on the answers — they'll help you compare attorneys and make an informed hiring decision.

15 Questions to Ask a San Diego Divorce & Family Law Attorney

1Is California community property going to divide everything 50/50 in our divorce?

Most assets acquired during marriage are community property and divided equally — but there are exceptions for separate property, transmutation, and complex assets.

2What is the difference between legal separation and divorce in California?

Legal separation keeps you married (no remarriage) but divides assets/debts and establishes support. Divorce terminates the marriage. The same 6-month waiting period applies.

3What is our approximate timeline given our level of disagreement?

Uncontested: 6-8 months minimum (waiting period). Contested: 18-36 months. High-conflict with trial: 3-5 years.

4How will spousal support be calculated?

California has a guideline for temporary support; long-term support considers 14 factors under Family Code §4320. Ask about your specific situation.

5How will complex assets (business, stock options, real estate, pensions) be valued and divided?

These require expert valuations — ask about the attorney's experience with forensic accountants and business valuators.

6What is the custody arrangement you believe is likely given our circumstances?

Be realistic about what California courts typically order — joint physical custody is common but not automatic.

7Will my children need to be involved in court proceedings?

Children rarely testify directly. 730 custody evaluations and Family Court Services mediation are the primary ways children's perspectives are considered.

8What are my options if my spouse is hiding assets?

Discovery tools (subpoenas, depositions, forensic accountants) can uncover hidden assets — ask about your attorney's experience with financial investigation.

9How are retirement accounts (401k, pension, CalPERS) divided in divorce?

Retirement assets accumulated during marriage are community property divided via a QDRO or DRO — your attorney must understand these specialized orders.

10What is your fee structure and what is the estimated total cost?

Family law is almost always hourly — get an honest estimate of hours for your specific level of conflict and complexity.

11Will this case likely settle through mediation or go to trial?

Most California divorces settle. Ask about your attorney's mediation experience and philosophy.

12Can I get attorney's fees from my spouse if they are wealthier?

Family Code §2030 allows the court to order one party to pay the other's attorney's fees based on income disparity — ask if this applies.

13How will the divorce affect our children's health insurance?

COBRA, employer plan coverage through the other spouse, and Covered California are all options — discuss the transition plan.

14What debts are community debts vs. separate debts?

Debts incurred during marriage are generally community — but there are exceptions and creditors can still come after either spouse regardless of the divorce decree.

15What is a RFO (Request for Order) and when should I file one?

An RFO is how you get temporary custody, support, and restraining orders while the divorce is pending — timing can be critical.

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